When I first started trying to date Ukraine women online, I made so many mistakes it wasn’t even funny. I went into things thinking I could woo these girls over in the same way that I woo the American girls local to me – cheap puns, flirty banter and a bit of witty humour. It turns out, seducing a Ukraine girl via the internet isn’t as easy as all that…
When I met Aida, I wasn’t really sure what I was doing. She was the first Ukrainian girl I spoke to online and in some ways, I wasn’t really that nice to her. No wonder the brief flirtation only lasted for a few weeks before it fizzled out.
There was a language barrier for a start, and this is something you’ll need to comer to terms with too. She didn’t understand my witty humour and making puns about the lads in the bar on a Friday night really didn’t sit well with her. I misinterpreted her when she said she was looking for someone to take care of her. I thought she meant financially. It turns out, that’s not all they are after.
See the thing is you hear so many scare stories about Ukraine dating scams that after a while, you believe every woman you talk to is out to get you. This is not the case. I don’t think I’ve ever met a scammer online but it took me a few months to get my head around the idea that these women might actually just want to talk to me.
See, I was a tad overweight. Not heavily obese; just a bit plump around the edges. I believed that all the other guys were six foot tall, heavily built guys with rippling arm muscles and abs that I could only dream of. Aida was so sweet to me, sending me screenshots of other guys that had been messaging her, and I realised that I wasn’t the worst guy on the site. I probably wasn’t the best but it really helped to boost my confidence.
At this point, I started talking to a whole bunch of girls, one of which it turned out Aida knew. That ruined any potential bond I had with that Ukraine beauty. She was under the impression that I was only talking to her and if I’m honest, I didn’t do much to steer her mind away from this. Once she had found out I was talking to other girls, she didn’t want anything more to do with me and she even blocked me from the site.
That’s the first lesson I ever learned about Ukraine dating – it’s not a case of “I can get away with it because I’m behind a computer screen” because these girls aren’t stupid. Some of them do live close to each other and some of them may even be friends. Don’t think you can get away with playing them – even though you are far away, they can still catch you out.
These Ukraine girls demand to be treated with respect and quite rightly too. What happened to the day of old-school romance, and relationships that involved compromise over fighting and game-playing? If it’s old-school you’re looking for, it’s an old-school approach that you’re going to need to take. It really is as simple as that.